Time to Fight
There is a time to cry
and a time to laugh.
There is a time to be sad
and a time to dance.
Ecclesiastes 3:4
Hello
I believe there are season’s of life. There are season’s of change and season’s of waiting, season’s of movement and season’s of stillness. I also believe there are season’s of brokenness and there are season’s of restoration. It is in all of these season’s that we learn valuable lessons and grow as people.
All of the season’s in our lives work in harmony, just like the season’s for the weather. Some season’s clear out the old from our lives, this can sometimes be painful and scary but it is needed. Some season’s can feel like a never-ending coldness. These season’s can feel dark and make you feel like nothing will ever change. Other season’s bring life, things grow and changes happen and everything feels warm and safe.
All of these season’s are needed and one can’t happen without the others.
We need to make sure that we don’t get stuck in a particular season because this will mean that there won’t be any growth in our lives. Sometimes this is extremely difficult and we can feel trapped and this is where we have to fight.
At the moment I am currently in a season of brokenness. I struggle with depression and this has really take a hold of my life in these past few months.(Side note everyone who has depression is affected differently, we are all unique people and we all have unique struggles and ways to cope). I have said before that I am an open book and so outwardly I express what is going on inside, meaning that people can clearly see when I’m struggling, because it is written on my face. I shut down, withdraw and my walls go up. Depression can be such an isolating illness and it is also something that lots of people don’t understand and get uneasy about. All these factors don’t help the person struggling. Depression can also come in season’s and these season’s can last for long amounts of time. It can make the most outgoing and confident person crumble and need to retreat. But like I said earlier although I think season’s of brokenness are needed, they are not a place for people to get comfortable. I’m writing this as much for me as I am you, If you are in a place of brokenness get prepared because operation get your fight on is a go !!!
Preparation is key. You see and hear that phrase everywhere, whether you are getting ready for exams, baking a cake or sailing around the world. You need to be prepared for the task ahead or you will fail. Whatever your season of brokenness looks like whether it be an illness or another hurdle in life, you need to get your survival kit ready. I’ll give you an example, if I was going to be stuck on an island somewhere I would take Bear Grylls because he is literally the jungle version of superman and I would also take a lifetime supply of water so Bear wouldn’t force me to drink my own pee !!! Now you can imagine if I wasn’t prepared in that situation things would definitely get nasty.
Lets build a survival kit
You need to prepare to fight your way out of your season’s of brokenness. I personally think the first step in doing so is admitting you are in such a season. Once you realise your in this season you can implement your survival kit.
After you admit where you are, you have to make the choice whether you want to move on out of the season your in, or whether you want to stay. Honestly this I think is the hardest thing to do. Season’s of brokenness although painful can be comfortable, and you may be tempted to stay in them. This is something I am currently processing. This season I am in is hard but it is also comfortable. But I know and people have reminded me that it isn’t a place where I should remain.
People are good things to go into your survival kits. Find people who will stick with you through thick and thin, and see if they will be support systems for you to lean on when the battle gets tough. These people can be friends and relatives or they can be teachers or other professional people like counsellors. Find someone who you can trust and who has a level head and a good outlook on situations. These people will help you stay accountable. Also don’t be ashamed to ask for help, the people around you who want the best for you would be so glad you asked for support. You don’t need a massive group of people, just one or two trusty allies who will be there rain or shine if you need them. I have two very strong ladies and I know they are strong because they are both trained bouncers !!! and I know these ladies have my back.
Fill your survival kit with things you know you enjoy and which on a general basis helps you feel happy and secure. I have recently taken up baking and I love it. It helps me focus on something, gets me on my feet and active and as a bonus I get to eat the finished product. I encourage you to take up a hobby you once enjoyed or find a new one, you don’t have to be good at it as long as your enjoying yourself.
Also shove in your headphones and listen to encouraging and uplifting music which is full of positive lyrics and sing them out into your life. I personally think there is no better music for this than that from a band called Rend Collective so check them out.
I’m sorry to bring this up as I try to give positive advice on here which hopefully won’t bring pain, but I sometimes have to make an exception so brace yourself.
No survival kit is ready until it includes Exercise there I said it !!! Exercise is important for your all round well-being and although it hurts and is hard and takes effort it is beneficial. Do something fun you don’t have to go exercise mad, dance around your room, get a workout dvd or go for a walk. Do something which you will enjoy and which will have you feeling good at the end of it. I have taken up running/walking/wishing the world would end,and although it is hard at the time, after I have finished I get the move over Usain Bolt there is a new champion in town feeling and it is so empowering.
Lastly in a similar way to the music try to fill your life with positive influences. Read books written by strong people who have overcome similar stuff to what you are going through. Watch videos and interviews by organisations which provide support in the areas you are struggling and save positive quotes which inspire you. Do whatever it takes to help yourself and remember what works for others might not work for you. Try different things and make the survival kit personal to you. I’m a Christian and I know doing things like praying and reading my bible will be things which will help me. Use whatever works as long as it is positive and safe.
We all go through times of struggle and brokenness, and the lessons you learn can be used to help others who are going through similar situations in the future. We don’t go through seasons for nothing they all bring purpose. Remember keep going because Autumn and Winter don’t last forever.
lots of love
Helen xx